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LADIES! Help him stay healthy with these healthful hints

May 19, 2023 01:12PM ● By Sandra Gordon

Among the roles you take on as a spouse or partner, such as co-bread winner and household CEO, guess what? You’re the health gatekeeper too. You’re the one who oversees your guy’s health choices and decisions.

A recent University of Chicago study, for example, found that older married men were 20% more likely to get a colonoscopy to screen for colon cancer in the past five years compared to men who were single. That went up 40% if men were happily married and their wives had high levels of education.

The researchers concluded that women’s health decisions influence their partners, especially if men view their wives as supportive. In other words, nagging—in a nice way—can be healthy.

What you can do to help your guy take good care of himself? Drop these healthful hints.

“When is the last time you had a check-up?”

Once men hit age 18 and they stop having yearly check-ups at the pediatrician, many don’t see a doctor again until their 50s, when prostate problems may start to become an issue or when they have a health crisis, such as a heart attack. That’s a missed opportunity for prevention.

Even if your guy feels fine, he should see the doctor regularly. Check-ups can catch something early, even before symptoms show up, such as diabetes or pre-diabetes.

According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, more than 29 million Americans have diabetes, but 1 in 4 don’t know because they haven’t been tested (a fasting blood test at the doctor’s office can detect it). Because men tend to have less contact with the medical system, they’re especially at risk. 

“If you catch and treat diabetes earlier, it’s easier to control,” said Dr. Carl Butch.

An early diagnosis can also reduce the risk of common diabetes complications, such as blindness.

“Let’s check out your risk for heart attack.”

Heart disease is the number one killer of both men and women in the U.S. One out of every four deaths is heart disease related. 

To help your man reduce his risk, suggest that he calculate his 10-year risk of heart disease or stroke with the American College of Cardiology/American Heart Association Heart Risk Calculator (find it at He can plug in his total and LDL (the “bad”) cholesterol and blood pressure numbers among other data. 

“Your risk score can be a powerful motivator,” said Butch, who uses the cardiovascular calculator app regularly with his patients. 

If your guy’s risk of having a cardiovascular event is at least 20%, he’s in the high-risk category. Urge him to do what he can to reduce it. 

Use the calculator to see how his percent changes if he quits smoking, for example, or loses 10 pounds. 

“Every five percent drop is significant,” said Butch.

“Maybe you should see a urologist.”

Like gynecologists for women, urologists are a part of a comprehensive strategy for men for health maintenance and prevention. Urologists treat everything from urinary tract infections and male factor infertility to erectile dysfunction and hormonal imbalances, as well as prostate cancer.

“Because we manage very personal things, I like to have the opportunity to establish a  relationship with patients so they can feel comfortable coming to me with certain issues that might get ignored, such as getting up more often to urinate,” said urologist Philip Dorsey, Jr., MD.

Men over 40 should see a urologist to get their prostate checked, particularly if they are at increased risk for prostate cancer, which will affect about one in seven men during his lifetime. 

The American Urologic Association (AUA) recommends that men age 55 to 69 discuss protein specific antigen (PSA) screening—a blood test that can help determine a man’s risk of developing prostate cancer—with their doctor and decide together what’s right for them. 

“PSA testing needs to be a discussion men have with their urologist so they can understand the benefits and potential shortcomings based on their situation,” said Dr. Dorsey.

Because prostate cancer tends to run in families, Dorsey recommends early PSA screening for men with one or more family members or a family member diagnosed with prostate cancer before 65. 

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